Awareness of ourselves and of others around us is one of the first things we learn in the Northstar Ju Jitsu system that is taught at Arrow.
The ready stance – where our body and our mind come back to being 'still and neutral, ready to respond' – is a fantastic way to train ourselves to bring our focus back into the present moment and the needs of the situation in front of us.
One of the most rewarding aspects of training in this system is the ability that we develop to not only step away from the selfish, self-serving need to have the last word, have the upper hand, or scream the loudest in a argument, and instead be able to quickly recognise when we are indeed being confronted by someone absorbed by their own ego, their selfish need to express themselves through anger, or to have their way, and act in a way that focuses on arriving to the best outcome.
It is far from being an endorsement of 'turning the other cheek'. Anyone who has ever had to endure the gruelling training process to obtain a Northstar Ju Jitsu Black Belt (or 2 or 3) can attest to how unforgiving the techniques are and how you only come out the other end in one piece by not giving up.
Paradoxically, it is this very ability to remove themselves from the equation that allows our Black Belts to focus on the outcome and the the self-centred need to be right.